Black men have seemingly declared war on Black women, and it’s getting real.
It’s no secret that the battle of the sexes is something that’s existed since Adam blamed Eve for biting that godforsaken forbidden fruit. For centuries, men and women have been at odds over their biological and psychological differences, both legitimate and naught.
For men and women of color, however, the stakes seem to be at an all-time high. Whether it’s baby mama vs. baby daddy drama or the delicate topic of dating outside one’s race, Black men and Black women just can’t seem to see to eye to eye.
Just look at the way critics (mostly men) came to the defense of rapper Future and assailed a social media attack against Ciara for bringing their young son around her new boyfriend, NFL star Russell Wilson. Ciara was publicly shamed for something that (1) is no one’s business and (2) an absolute double standard, as the singer pointed out during an interview on CBS “This Morning.”
“It’s been very interesting to hear what a lot of guys have had to say,” Ciara said. “I feel like in a sense it’s a bit of a double standard, because at one point in time when we were together, I took care of his kids as well.”
“I was involved very early in the stage of us getting to know each other, and that’s been a big conversation. It’s kind of like, ‘Well, what’s the difference here?'” she added. “I think that even for the men that were outspoken, it’s like, wouldn’t you want someone to love on your child, or love on the child that you are speaking about?”
But of course Black male critics of Ciara don’t see the double standard. When do they ever recognize the unfair standards and expectations they place on Black women? While women of color continue to be the backbones for their male counterparts and their families, they continue to bad mouth Black women as if it was not a Black woman who pushed them out of their vagina. In their eyes, Black women are “angry,” “crazy” and just about any other not-so-flattering adjective you can think of.
Writer Niki McGloster touched on this very topic in a Facebook post bemoaning a text conversation she had with a Black man stemming from a comment she made about a nude picture of Kim Kardashian. After saying Kardashian was fishing for attention the unidentified male accused her, and Black women, of being angry “mean girls.” That debate turned into an exchange about how Black women hate white women for being white and liking “Black” things, whether it’s a Black man, Black music or Black hairstyles.
“What i can’t pinpoint is when some (i’d never say all) black men started hating black women? i’d like a date or a reference point,” McGloster wrote on Facebook. “it’s clear that black men are jaded about who we are, what we stand for and why we speak up about certain things.”
Quite honestly if Black women are at the very least irritated they have every reason to be. Look at the way they are misunderstood, misrepresented and ridiculed. What’s most heartbreaking is that a lot of that pushback comes from Black men themselves. And for any man of color that wants to perpetuate the notion that Black women are “angry,” just imagine if white America said that very same thing about Blacks (and they do) when objecting to the racial injustice presently on display within the Black Lives Matter movement.
It’s truly a sad day in Black America that (some) Black men can’t seem to stand in solidarity with Black women. Because if they won’t stand up, who will?